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Division: Troops and soldiers and horses can only be used by wise monarchs to open up new territories and protect the country. Only in this way can we create great achievements!
Villains and bad people cannot use it without permission, otherwise it will cause chaos and endanger the country! Causing death!
Team: Business leaders who want to build a business empire and an executive team should naturally not be profit-oriented, but should be based on integrity and service.
Only in this way can we become bigger and stronger, lay a solid foundation and remain invincible.)
Villains and bad people cannot use it without permission, otherwise it will cause chaos and endanger the country! Causing death!
Team: Business leaders who want to build a business empire and an executive team should naturally not be profit-oriented, but should be based on integrity and service.
Only in this way can we become bigger and stronger, lay a solid foundation and remain invincible.)
Now that the troops and horses have been dispatched, the troops have been arranged, and the war has been launched, if you find that there is danger to defend and land to occupy, you should naturally act quickly to seize the opportunity and seize the opportunity. There is no fault, it will only be beneficial!
Team building should be based on merit rather than blindly appointing cronies!
Leading troops to fight and go on expeditions is different from village bullies and street bullies, who command their sons and relatives to bully weak villagers.
Nepotism is like appointing the eldest son to be the marshal, while the younger son is responsible for food, grass, and follow-up work. This will only lead to a situation where the army is defeated like a mountain and the carts pull casualties. It is very dangerous!)
Team building should be based on merit rather than blindly appointing cronies!
Leading troops to fight and go on expeditions is different from village bullies and street bullies, who command their sons and relatives to bully weak villagers.
Nepotism is like appointing the eldest son to be the marshal, while the younger son is responsible for food, grass, and follow-up work. This will only lead to a situation where the army is defeated like a mountain and the carts pull casualties. It is very dangerous!)
If you encounter great resistance and it doesn't work, you can consider pausing, retreating, adjusting, and reflecting. There is nothing wrong with this.
This is normal practice and not abnormal.)
This is normal practice and not abnormal.)
Sending troops to fight is to use force and brute force to resolve disputes and problems.
Using force to solve problems will naturally involve the risk of casualties and failure. It’s dangerous!
You may suffer heavy casualties, but still work without success, so you must be cautious!)
Using force to solve problems will naturally involve the risk of casualties and failure. It’s dangerous!
You may suffer heavy casualties, but still work without success, so you must be cautious!)
In a team, there is no fault if we are upright and fair.
Being upright and fair will bring good luck and auspiciousness. This is the way of heaven, and you will naturally be blessed.
If you lead the team in this way, your boss will naturally favor you.
You will rise all the way up and become an imperial envoy!
You have a loyal heart, and people from all countries respect you greatly!)
Being upright and fair will bring good luck and auspiciousness. This is the way of heaven, and you will naturally be blessed.
If you lead the team in this way, your boss will naturally favor you.
You will rise all the way up and become an imperial envoy!
You have a loyal heart, and people from all countries respect you greatly!)
It can be as big as leading troops to fight, as small as forming a business team, or even leading and managing a tourist group. Formulating rules and regulations in advance and maintaining strict discipline are the most important tasks. Otherwise there is a risk of failure and accidents.
There must be rules, systems, and discipline in doing things. Otherwise there is danger!)
There must be rules, systems, and discipline in doing things. Otherwise there is danger!)
Hexagra Sequence
Hexagram Note:
Hexagram Shī – Earth over Water (Water Within the Earth)
Kūn above, Kǎn below
Shī (Judgment)
Shī:
Steadfastness.
The elder leader is auspicious,
and there is no blame.
Tuàn Commentary (Commentary on the Judgment)
“Shī means the multitude.
‘Steadfastness’ means correctness.
One who can guide the multitude with correctness
is capable of becoming a king.
The firm (yang) is centered and corresponds;
he moves through danger while remaining compliant.
With this, he can discipline the realm,
and the people follow him.
If it is auspicious, how could there be blame?”
Xiàng Commentary (Commentary on the Image)
“Water within the Earth—this is Shī.
The noble one uses this image
to accommodate the people
and gather the multitudes.”
Love,Marriage：
The Shi Hexagram (Earth over Water, ☷ above ☵ below)
The Shi Hexagram (No. 7) in the I Ching is composed of the upper trigram Kun (Earth) and the lower trigram Kan (Water). The original meaning of “Shi” is army, team, or organization, extending to concepts like order, discipline, obedience, structure, and leadership. Traditionally, it relates to warfare and command, but from a higher perspective, it actually offers a wisdom framework for how to coordinate, govern, and fight together in relationships.
Applying the Shi Hexagram in Love and Marriage
The power of the Shi Hexagram fits perfectly for:
Establishing structure
Managing conflicts
Maintaining order
Overcoming crises together
Taking on roles and responsibilities
When a relationship faces real-world challenges (parenting, family pressures, financial management, communication crises), the way of Shi becomes especially crucial.
1. Basic Information and Symbolism of Shi Hexagram
Hexagram: Upper Kun (Earth), Lower Kan (Water)
Judgment: "Shi. Perseverance brings good fortune for the elder. No blame."
Image: Water in the earth — Shi. The noble person accommodates people and nurtures the many.
Core Keywords: Structure, discipline, responsibility, cooperation, guidance, governance, facing difficulties together
2. Five Key Strategies of Shi Wisdom in Love and Marriage
✅ 1. “Structured Love” — Love needs systems, roles, and consensus
Shi teaches: Without “organization,” love will eventually become chaotic. A good marriage needs a “systematic beauty.”
Application:
Create clear “division of labor and negotiation mechanisms” such as: Who manages money? Who cooks? Who takes care of the children?
Love is not just romance; it requires rhythm and arrangement (e.g., regular communication, monthly financial meetings, date nights).
Build a shared identity of “we are a team,” not blaming each other.
✅ 2. “Fight Difficulties Together” — Marriage is not escape, but joint battle
From the Image text: “The noble person accommodates people and nurtures the many,” meaning leadership is about embracing and managing the group. Marriage is the same.
Application:
When life pressure hits (work stress, family crises), avoid blame and develop a “joint resistance mechanism.”
Ensure both partners consult together on major decisions, forming synergy rather than one shouldering alone.
Adopt a “comrade-in-arms mindset” to face external challenges like loans, child-rearing, illness together.
✅ 3. “Using Softness to Control Hardness” — Strength with gentleness, rules with warmth
Shi’s upper Kun is soft, lower Kan is perilous — emphasizing using gentle power to manage danger and conflict.
Application:
In conflicts, do not respond harshly; instead, guide with gentle firmness.
When making rules or agreements, speak firmly but kindly—neither cold nor yielding.
Managing the relationship is like leading troops: enforce discipline while caring for morale.
✅ 4. “Perseverance, Elders’ Good Fortune” — Trusted, mature individuals take leadership roles
“Perseverance” means the right path and position; “Elder” is a respected and virtuous figure. Mature partners must take the lead.
Application:
One partner should proactively act as the “emotional leader” (not controller), providing direction amid chaos.
Become each other’s “spiritual mentor” and “strategic partner,” not just emotional companions.
In major family disagreements, one must calmly judge and coordinate rather than escalating conflict.
✅ 5. “No Blame” Principle — Avoid chaos and reckless behavior
Shi emphasizes military discipline, which in marriage means no impulsive emotional blame or disorderly freedom.
Application:
Set “emotional discipline” such as avoiding silent treatment or arguing when emotions run high.
Establish conflict resolution “processes,” e.g., return to rational dialogue within 48 hours after disputes.
Both parties must have behavioral boundaries and repair mechanisms, not endless tolerance or control.
3. Military Thinking Applied to Relationships (Analogous View)
Military Concept Marriage Equivalent Application Strategy
General Emotionally stable leader One partner takes on more organizing and emotional repair work
Military Discipline Relationship rules and agreements Establish clear division of duties, decision processes, and agreements
Comrades Intimate partners Face external challenges together with trust and cooperation
Strategy Relationship planning Set medium- and long-term joint goals (parenting, property, career)
Logistics Emotional and daily support Daily care, emotional comfort, and family support systems
4. Shi Strategies for Different Situations
Situation Shi Hexagram Strategy
💥 Frequent quarrels, chaos Set communication rules and resolution procedures (e.g., “cool-down” periods)
📉 One partner lacks responsibility Encourage the mature partner to take lead (not sacrifice)
🌀 No consensus between both Hold regular “family meetings” to enhance role awareness and communication
🧊 Emotional cold phase Strengthen “sense of organization” instead of piling up emotions, set goals together
5. Conclusion: Marriage as a Joint Strategic Operation
The Shi Hexagram teaches us:
A good marriage is not always gentle; it is structured, orderly, and coordinated.
True love is disciplined love — the wisdom to govern the relationship.
Using the Shi Hexagram to manage love helps transform chaos into order, elevate feelings into strategy, and turn division into standing side by side.